Feeling lonely? Bored? Dissatisfied? How can a man (or woman) be content? Many people believe that their happiness comes from their circumstances. Women often chase after the love of a man, but will this truly satisfy a woman? I used to be very consumed with finding Mr. Right. I am still learning to be content in every season.

Truth is, we are only able to be content when we are in total surrender to the Lord, relying on His total provision. There is no other way to be content and have peace. Be warned that if you date or marry a man who is dissatisfied, as he will be if he is far from God and has no kingdom purpose, this man is very, very likely to cheat. The man or woman who is not in right fellowship with the Lord won’t be content.

Dissatisfaction in life can lead to debauchery.

The man who is not content often creates an altered reality for himself, to cope with his dissatisfaction. His created reality will likely be one that includes lawlessness. He may be restless, full of fantasy, and obstinate. In his altered reality, this type of man commonly finds himself in a state of compromise for the sake of fleshly indulgence.

Please note, this kind of man may also be religious. He may go to church regularly, may even hold a ministerial position in the churc. He may know the Bible from cover to cover; yet he does not know the Lord. One thing is for certain-men and women are created to worship God. That is the beginning and the end of the story. There is no substitute, no satisfaction outside of being in the Lord. Before becoming involved with a man who is not in the Lord, understand that as long as a man is not in the Lord, he will never, ever be satisfied! Same goes for a woman.

Only Jesus truly satisfies.

Power, prestige, money, fame, women, sex…nothing will truly satisfy your man! No one but God will satisfy him. Common habits for the dissatisfied man are womanizing, promiscuity, and other addictions. He is bored without these activities because he lacks purpose. He doesn’t lack purpose really, but he doesn’t understand his purpose.

At the same time, some women make men into idols. Women like this tend to seemingly thrive, as long as the man is treating her correctly. Some women look to their man for pretty much everything. In a sense, she looks to him as her god, her provider for her overall satisfaction. Under these circumstances, a woman is not really thriving though, because idolatry will always backfire.

Not surprisingly, this type of woman ends up with a man who will not truly satisfy her, because he was not meant to satisfy her deepest need, which is God. In addition, she ends up dissatisfied when her man does not treat her well. A truly godly man will not knowingly allow a woman to make an idol out of him. If he realizes that she is idolizing him, he will correct her. Contrarily, the ungodly man likely wants a woman to make an idol out of him. He may thrive off of it.

Believing happiness comes from having a man will lead to great disappointment.

If a woman specifically marries a religious misogynist, he will often twist the word of God, handling the scriptures deceitfully, to imply that he is basically deity or that she should bow to worship him. He may present to her that God’s design for the husband and wife indicates the husband’s superiority to the wife. This is not Biblical!

It has been reported that 80 to 85% of divorces are initiated by women. Ironically, women tend to be the ones most zealous or overly zealous about marriage in the first place.

• We can see that women who are looking for satisfaction in marriage will never find it simply by being married.

• People will find true contentment in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ alone. It is secondarily that the right spouse will be a blessing.

• Our greatest need and our greatest joy is Jesus Christ. From Him all blessings flow.

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Women who take their eyes off God and fixate on a man for their happiness suffer great disappointment. Joy comes from within, and is not a result of circumstances. This is why even when a woman marries the right man, although he is a blessing, he is still not her true source of happiness. He is not responsible for her happiness. We must be able to have joy and be content, regardless of our relationship status with a man, or other circumstances.

Many Christian women have been deceived by men who masquerade as Christians.

This is something I want to particularly bring attention to, because it is rampant in the church, among professed Christians. Women have in the past been, and are currently being fooled into marrying men that they believe are Christians, only to find out later that her husband isn’t a man of God after all.

Some women believe their husband was Christian before she married him, and think he changed after marriage. I believe it is often the case that he was never Christian, but had on a “Christian” mask. Then, he took it off after marriage to expose his true self. This is common. I have seen it too much, but this has helped me to be extra careful and keep God first. It reminds me to have the right priority, with God being first, and God being my all. It helps me to keep my eyes wide open and to obey the promptings of the Holy Spirit.

As a woman, I know I can easily be led astray by my feelings.

I can be led astray by words I hear from a man, even when he is not telling the truth. I don’t want that. What I see happening today with women being deceived reminds me of Eve and the serpent in the garden of Eden. The serpent gave her false doctrine, and she was deceived.

The serpent used the tactic of mixing in truth with error, had a way with words with her, and she was duped. She should have kept her eyes on God and believed the truth. Eve should have believed that God was enough, and should have understood that all of what God says is true.

It is still happening. To this day, some Christian women continue to be deceived by men who are Christian impostors. The smooth, slick words of some men have continuously been a very powerful, very effective weapon against women. Of course, plenty men are unfortunately deceived by women also.

When a woman takes her eyes off of Jesus, she is more likely to be deceived. The Holy Spirit will never lead anyone astray. Often, if not in every case, there will be red flags standing at attention, but a woman must be paying attention and willing to accept that there actually are red flags in order to see them, protect herself and make the right decisions.

We all have weaknesses. Women’s weaknesses often include gullibility, making an idol out of love or an idol out of men, fantasizing about being in love, etc.

“Be sober, be vigilant;  because your adversary, the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:  Whom resist steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.” 1 Peter 5: 8-9.

We ladies must be observant, prayer, prayerful and careful.

The word of God also reminds us, “Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness ; and all these things shall be added unto you.”  Matthew 6 :33 -34.

I am certainly not saying that God will reward us with a husband or anything else we want, simply because we serve Him. As Christians, we are obligated to seek God and His righteousness first, and when we obey God, He will bless us. When we serve the one, true living God and seek His leading and guidance, we cannot go wrong. It is important for us to remember that the enemy is out to steal, kill, and destroy.

The same type of deception perpetrated by the serpent and used against Eve in the garden of Eden, is still alive and well today. May God help both men and women to avoid fraud, including religious fraudsters, who are even more dangerous. The word of God tells us that the enemy himself transforms himself into an angel of light. 

2 Corinthians 11 : 13-14 tells us, “For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ. And no marvel; for satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.”

We cannot be happy or content with someone else, if we are not happy and content without them. We can avoid the traps of the enemy by seeking God’s direction, knowing His word, putting our trust fully in Him. He is to be worshipped as King of kings and Lord of lords. We are not to put any other gods before Him. He alone is the one, true living God, worthy of all glory, honor, and praise.