In my posts, am I just being negative? To me, the answer to this is a no-brainer, in that reality is not always warm and fuzzy. It is not about me being negative. There are major problems in the world that are surrounded by too much silence.

For example, many women, including myself, have been greatly affected by gender bias, spiritual and other types of abuse. This is quite common, even in this 21st century in the United States of America.

While many women suffer, some other people are going on about their business. I know of plenty women who have also been affected by various types of abuse and discrimination.

Being silent helps keep the oppressor comfortable oppressing, and the oppressed miserable and remaining oppressed.

There have been and are many women suffering. Sometimes, when real life topics are addressed and they aren’t the most pleasant topics, people view it as negativity that should be avoided. I disagree.

How will positive change ever come about if we do not acknowledge that there is a problem in the first place?

This is exactly what has been a major part of the problem- the fact that people want to avoid talking about and dealing with certain problems. Sometimes, I believe the reason certain issues are neglected is because they affect women most. For whatever reason, some people do not seem to be concerned enough about women’s plight.

Even some women don’t seem to notice or acknowledge certain issues primarily affecting women. I am grateful that there has been public acknowledgement and legal protections put in place for certain matters of discrimination or abuse against women and others in general.

As for individual members of society, it is one thing to take note of violence against women and breathe a sigh of relief that law enforcement has caught the culprit(s) and put them in prison.

It’s a different thing to contemplate why so many have contempt, rage, anger, and are violent towards women.

It is yet another thing to actually implement proactive, preventative, and better consequential measures.

At what age does a boy or man begin to have these problems hating girls and women? What are root issues influencing a man to think this way about women and behave so badly toward women? What can men do about it? What can women do about it? How about parents? How can they proactively help their children?

I want to shed light in the dark areas that some others avoid. Here are some topics of ongoing concern for me:

Women primarily have been on the receiving end of a lot of injustices including:

– Boys are often not being raised properly. Plenty are not trained to be people of integrity who love and value women.

– Girls are often not equipped with knowledge of their worth. They are lacking the knowledge they need to navigate safely through life, and to use wisdom in their relationships with men.

This is often due to improper father presents, and lack of proper father demonstration and instruction to their daughters on what it means to be a real man.

-Workforce discrimination and harassment

-Unequal pay for doing the same jobs

– Objectification

– Physical and sexual assault. When these attacks happen, sometimes people focus on what the victim did to “provoke” the attack. Often, the people thinking this way are religious people. Note: I did not say they are necessarily followers of Jesus Christ; I said they are religious people.

– Assault and forced humiliation perpetuated against women also includes female mutilation or female “circumcision.”

-Honor killings: the murder of innocent women and girls to punish them because they didn’t stroke the man’s ego enough, or because he “feels” shamed or disrespected by them.

– Spiritual abuse, etc.

We live in an age of danger, confusion, and carelessness.

• I am concerned about the confusion in much of modern day ideology.

• I am also concerned about the fact that some women seem to be clueless and living life too carefree, not taking care of themselves by being cautious and aware enough.

• Plenty women are idolizing men, and idolizing the idea of love, and relationships. This gets women into a lot of trouble.

• There are lies about femininity, and women are living these lies. Consequently, they are not understanding or living according to their God-given purposes.

• There is an extreme response (radical feminism) that encourages women to turn from God’s beautiful design and plans for women. For this reason, I like to address what godly feminity is, based on God’s word.

• I want to see women live lives of purpose based on the will of God.

• I like to encourage women to take care of themselves, and to have the proper requirements for the people they invite into their lives.

• I would love to see women living joyfully, and up to their full potential in ways that glorify God.

Some of women are most vulnerable; yet are the most trusting and carefree.

Plenty women have learned hard lessons from life experiences. I know that many women are taking personal responsibility and ownership of the decisions that they make. They aim to make safe and healthy decisions in the present and future. This is wonderful.

There are other women who make the same mistakes over and over, as if they are under a spell, especially in their relationships with men. In particular, this is often the case when it comes to women in their relationships with men.

These women are grieved, stressed, vexed, hurt, sad, angry and more due to their relationship / marriage problems. This is why I discuss the issues I discuss. I am not out to bash anybody, step on anyone’s toes, be negative, or any malicious thing.

I don’t victim shame. Some women cannot help the situations that they are in. My heart breaks for them, and I pray for deliverance, healing and restoration for them.

Life is a journey of learning and growing.

If there is any way I can help a woman or anyone personally, it is my duty. I am aware that many women can do better and should do better. I am also aware that many girls are not informed and equipped with knowledge they need to safely navigate their relationships.

Life is about learning and growing. It is about personal choices. It is about having the knowledge to make the most wise and safe decisions.

I am learning continually. I desire that women learn from mistakes and best glorify God in how they live their lives. I find that certain topics are hard to discuss with people.

Responses are sometimes denial, dismissiveness, anger, defensiveness, or even indifference. Some women want to hear warm, fuzzy things instead of reality. Some men become defensive or downplaying of the facts. They seem to take it personal that I acknowledge mistreatment of women and that proactive and reactive measures should be properly taken.

It seems that too many men are silent on the topic of male contempt and violence against women. This contempt is common, chronic, generational, and widespread. It is a huge problem.

At the same time, there are other men who are outspoken and take stands against injustices and violence against women, children, and other men. There are women who are violent and contemptuous against men, and this is equally as wrong!

Why is domestic violence not discussed and called out more often in the churches?

Sadly, I don’t hear enough pastors discussing and rebuking these things. Generally, I also don’t observe male family members, friends, or colleagues addressing many men’s contempt of women much either. I do have some of these serious conversations with a couple family members and close friends.

Consequently, I discuss issues based on the fact that they need to be highlighted more, because positive change is urgently necessary, and I refuse to be silent.

Both men and women can best glorify God by living according to His will. We are to love God and to love one another. On behalf of both God and humanity, men and women should care about and love each other.

I am exercising my free speech in the areas it is needed most. I want to bring attention to issues that don’t get enough attention. I desire to point women to Jesus Christ, who is the answer for all their problems.

Finally, Christians have comfort that we are overcomers, because Jesus already overcame, and we are victors because of Him. “These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” John 16: 33