• Ever have someone whisper about you behind your back?

• Did the rumors about you spread like wildfire and people’s attitudes and behavior toward you inexplicably changed in a negative way?

• Has anyone ever suddenly begun to acted strangely toward you to your face for unknown reasons?

• Has anyone purposefully excluded you?

• Has anyone picked verbal or physical altercations with you?

• Has anyone slandered and or sabotaged you on purpose?

Often, envy is the culprit behind such conflict.

Whether it is family members, friends, or a significant other, some people can cause great distress for others. Life can be difficult enough without someone targeting you with their animosity and negativity for no good reason.

If a person has it out for you, is mean to you unprovoked, puts you down in any way, or if they look down on you, they can create an illusion of elevation for themselves.

Your degradation becomes their elevation. It is not about you. Some people will not like you no matter what. It is about them, and that is where the problem lies- with them.

I used to waste time stressing over and wondering why someone had a problem with me. The truth is, that is just the way it is; not everyone will like me. I’m finally OK with it. Sometimes, their problem with me is more of a problem they have with themselves, and their own circumstances.

When someone is toxic and targets you, continue to know your worth and love yourself. Your value is not determined by what others say about you, or how they treat you. God has created you to be who you are. You are who God says you are; not what someone else says or thinks about you.

Child of God…please remember:

The Bible says, “The Spirit Itself bears witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God: And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.” Roman’s 8: 16-17.

How wonderful to be a child of the Most High God!

You are raised up, elevated in Christ, not diminished, and no one can take that away from you.

Christ… “hath raised us up together and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus…” Ephesians 2: 6.

God loves you so much!

“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”  John 3: 16.

Remember to love and pray for your enemies.

“But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.”  Luke 6: 27-28

God will help and deliver you.

“The righteous cry, and the Lord heareth and delivereth them out of all of their troubles.” Psalms 34: 17.

God hates and is against the wicked and violent.

“The Lord trieth the righteous:  but the wicked and him that loveth violence, his soul hateth.” Psalms 11: 5

God calls us to love Him and to love one another.

“Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all of thy heart, and with all of thy soul, and with all of thy mind. This is the first and great commandment.

And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” Matthew 22: 37-39

I cannot be worried about trouble makers. After many years, I have come to the place where I do not care if someone, without justification does not like me. I don’t.

When I have done nothing wrong to someone; yet they have a problem with me, it is not my problem. It is their problem. It is likely they have a problem with themselves, or do not like themselves, and cannot like someone else.

We must be selective and discerning about who we keep around us.

Whatever the case is, I had to come to the place where I disregard the invalid opinions of others. Those who falsely accuse me, dislike me for no good reason and perhaps, just have it out for me in general need my prayers. It took me a while to get to that place.

I know the battle is not between flesh and blood, but I have an adversary working against me behind the scenes, and my enemies are his puppets. Ephesians 6: 10-20.

I can choose to pray for my enemies and keep a safe distance from them. I should do good to them when I am presented with the opportunity. It is not helpful to stress over what they think of me. Despite the enemy’s attempts to destroy someone’s self esteem and identity, he cannot take away who someone is in Christ.

I must remember and believe what God says about me. When I know who I am in Christ, this helps me to have peace, confidence, and healthy self-esteem. This is regardless of what others say about me or do against me.