This is a be on the lookout, cautionary post. This is one of those under- acknowledged topics. I am bringing attention to it, because it is a dangerous world out there.

Some women are not living in awareness. This can cause them to miss major red flags. Red flags should be caught early on, if possible, and appropriate actions should be taken accordingly.

Due to my observations and experiences, I am more careful now. A great thing about experience is that it is a very effective teacher. It is up to me to learn from my experiences.

Everyone has insecurities. Furthermore, some men have very dangerous cases of insecurity that make them hypersensitive, prone to rage, and even homicidal.

Women must pay attention and be more careful. Even though certain topics are neglected in being addressed, this does not mean that these topics are not significantly important.

There are women in great danger right now because they are dealing with severely insecure men.

All it takes is the wrong thing said, done, or a wrong look on a bad day, and that could literally be the end. Some boys are taught to repress their negative emotions. They live life with unreleased, negative energy and unresolved conflict, etc. Some are ticking time bombs. A woman may feel that she can love her man’s insecurity away, but that is not usually the way it works.

I used to tip-toe around other’s insecurities and try to pacify them, but it did not help. My experience is that I have dealt with very insecure men, and insecure men can be cruel, hypersensitive, and very emotionally fragile. Their insecurity comes from within, and is a problem with them that they need to fix. No matter what I do, I cannot fix someone else’s insecurity.

One reason an extremely insecure person is dangerous is because of envy. Very insecure people are commonly envious. “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.” -James 3:16.

Often, there are feelings of bitterness, inadequacy, and envy. What may initially seem like annoying, but harmless attitudes and behaviors could actually be an indication of a dangerous and even homicidal nature.

These are concerning characteristics of an insecure man.

• Obsessed with public reputation and will do many things in an attempt to receive recognition.

• Primary goals are self-exaltation and self-preservation, often at the expense of others.

• Bragging

• Feels disrespected for little or no reason.

• Often doesn’t admit fault; blames others, denies, deflects, refuses to apologize.

• Feels unjustifiably threatened. For example, because his woman turns heads, wins an employee award, or makes more money than him.

• Is prone to rage and resentment.

• Has an unhealthily competitive nature, including competing with his woman.

• Tries to hold his woman down and throw shade on her by resisting or stunting her gifts, talents and achievements.

• He is fearful; therefore, he is controlling.

• Resorts to putting his woman and others down in an attempt to raise himself up.

• Has a mocking, condescending, belittling attitude toward thoughts, aspirations and contributions of others.

• Has a wild imagination, concocting accusations and stories about his woman being untrustworthy, but they often stem from his insecurity or own personal guilt.

• Resents the success of his woman.

• Is likely to cheat, and or accuse his woman of cheating, due to his insecurities and personal guilt.

• Is malicious and vindictive.

• Envious of others in general.

• Doesn’t fear God so much as he fears man. This is the most dangerous trait.

Without the fear of God, a person is capable of anything.

Sometimes, women feel sorry for people and even date them out of pity. Some women feel desperate, due to loneliness. In a healthy situation, a woman chooses to be with a man because she simply wants to be with him.

She feels he is right for her based on feeling safe and having shared values and interests. If a woman ignores red flags and dates someone because she feels she can help him or cure him, it may backfire in the worst way.

It is good to be able to see through any charm, good looks, wealth, look past pitying a potential partner, and make a safe decision on who we allow into our lives. Another problem is that the loved ones of a woman are at risk when she brings a dangerous man into her life. Unfortunately, stats show it is quite common for women to end up in dangerous relationships or marriages.

This post serves to:

1) Shed light on red flags to look out for in a partner. Sometimes, a woman overlooks red flags, especially if she feels very needy and lonely.

2) Remind women of the dangerous world that we live in. Life should be lived cautiously and wisely.

“Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth.

Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee: love her, and she shall keep thee.

Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” Proverbs 4: 5-7