Impacting Righteously

One Of The Best Traits A Man Can Have.

One of the best traits anyone can have?…drumroll… This is emotional intelligence because it is needed across the board. A lot of problems stem from lack of emotional intelligence. Problems stem from lack of integrity in general. But some people do not have emotional intelligence to help them cope with and manage issues in life. According to Merriam Webster dictionary, this is emotional intelligence: ” the ability to recognize, understand, and deal skillfully with one’s...

Who He Is Matters FAR More Than What He Has.

Globally, lots of women seem to believe that it’s more important what men have than who they are. This way of thinking has driven many women to make very poor and dangerous relationship decisions. Some women focus on men’s titles, positions and statuses mostly. This focus is understandable to an extent. Everyone knows that men are to provide. Part of provision means material provision. It means earning money in order to earn one’s keep to...

Understanding Marriage And Love, According To God’s Design

I stopped fantasizing about love, relationships and marriage in my twenties and developed a more realistic approach. The reason for this is because God helped me better see HIS purpose in me and in marriage. Marriage has nothing to do with the fairy tales and romance novels that often drive girls and women into relentless pursuits of romantic love with (often the wrong) men. I realize God wanted my attention, my reverence, my worship in...

Understanding Gender Dynamics In Relationships

Is it possible that men and women can get out of the natural order in relationships? People are free to do as they please, obviously. But the purpose of this post, like the purpose of my other posts, is to present life situations based on God’s word and His design. Yes, the woman’s job is to reciprocate, to respond to a man’s initiative when it comes to relationships. It is a God-given dynamic. Even in...

Why Masculinity Is Good

I noticed two things: some people are denying that there is a fake, false form of masculinity that does not reflect the masculinity that Jesus Christ demonstrated. Secondly, other people are demonizing masculinity overall. The most common scenario I have noticed is people seeming to pretend that there is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Perhaps they are bothered by the terminology? Would they like to call it something else?Wrong masculinity? Bad masculinity? Faux masculinity?...

Ladies, Your Worth Is NOT In Your Fertility.

Hi friends! I decided to write this post because I see it being weaponized against women that that there is a window of time for women to have children. There are insinuations that women decline in worth and value once past their “fertile” years before age 30. Especially, some “conservative” religious men are harsh and cruel, calling women who are childless and single “bitter cat ladies.” I wrote this post to encourage every single woman...

Keep Shining In The Darkness!

I am thankful to God for empowering followers of Jesus to stay the course. I’m so grateful for men and women, boys and girls who serve Christ, no matter the consequences. I also want to encourage the ladies specifically when it comes to going against the grain, including in the most difficult ways, in order to follow Jesus. Righteous feminine influence is paramout in this dark world. Cheers to all the ladies who are not...

IF You Are Afraid Of Him, Stay Away From Him!

It’s a dangerous world. There are dangerous people. If you are afraid of someone, should you stay away from them? The answer sounds obvious. Yes! Yet, sometimes it’s not so simple. I have been in situations in my past where men made me nervous, gave me dangerous vibes right from the get-go and I proceeded with them anyway. I never let it get very far because I am a very cautious person and as it...

An Urgent Plea To Single Moms

Children are under attack in a variety of ways. To all the moms doing it alone raising your children, I know it is not easy. Please prioritize your children’s overall well-being, including their safety. God bless you in all your efforts to care for and raise your children. You were never intended to parent alone! It takes two to procreate and at the very least, it takes two to raise a child properly. I’m sorry...

Refuse To Be The Forever Girlfriend!

Especially, refuse to be a forever girlfriend if you want to be married. Have you ever met women who desire to get married but remain men’s girlfriends chronically, because their boyfriends won’t marry them? How about women who truly desired marriage but changed their stances on it when their men said, “Marriage is just a piece of paper?” Ever met a lady who was willing to play house and give husband benefits outside of marriage...