I write a lot to warn, inform and encourage women against misogynistic attitudes and controlling, abusive behaviors. Though these behaviors and attitudes have been a problem for many generationally, women’s responses have not always been right either. For example, radical feminism is an extreme response. Sometimes, some women go too far and become extreme, calling behaviors controlling or tyrannical when they aren’t. I am seeing some ladies resistant to their men’s benevolent actions and calling...
This post is to inform girls and women in ways that I was not informed. It is to encourage them in ways that I was not encouraged. It is to warn them in ways I was not warned. Everyone has insecurities of some sort. For some people, their insecurities are a lot more debilitating. Some women are finding out about the dangers of relationships with their men primarily through their individual experiences. Some people are...
The types of women who are known as “pick me” women are contributing to the deficit of men who are marriage material or even ideal for a serious relationship. I have witnessed these types of women numerous times. I believe “pick me” syndrome is a form of self-hatred and a form of idolatry- idolatry of men. It is important to note that pick me women are not those who simply hold themselves and other women...
Jesus is not my boyfriend either. I have been noticing this for a while: some women in particular, seem to have this sappy, romantic view of Jesus Christ. Although we know that Jesus loves us and as His followers, we love Jesus, it is not that kind of love. It is far greater. We can never fully comprehend the love Jesus has for us, but we show our love for Him by obeying His commandments....
…but he doesn’t want to be present and take care of them. Sound familiar? There are plenty people who enjoy making babies, but don’t want the responsibilities of caring for, raising their children. Those of you who are familiar with this blog know that I encourage women to guard themselves overall, including their minds and bodies. This cannot be overemphasized. This post is not a jab at single fathers or single mothers at all. Sometimes,...
Some of us ladies have had tendencies to become overly zealous when we became involved with a man. For some women, this may have taken the form of idolizing men and placing them as priority over almost everything and everyone soon after they met them. For me, it was having that person on my mind almost constantly and having very strong feelings for him early on. I was positively presumptuous. It’s good to be positive...
Ladies, … you would never knowingly become involved with a man who is already attached to someone else, would you? This is whether he is married or dating someone else. If not, that is wonderful, and that is the right thing to do. It is the right way to be. There are other ladies with different values that I encourage to stay away from men who are already attached. It is common for some women...
Many women seem to have gotten into the habit of comparing themselves to and competing with men. On one hand, women want to be celebrated and acknowledged as equally valuable and equally important as men, rightfully so. That’s not all, though. Because of oppression, discrimination double standards, and for other reasons, some women are responding in the wrong ways. A lot of this is due to these women’s own sinful natures. For some women, being...
Some women are serious-minded about having a long-term relationship and have various questions about their men, such as do the men in their lives love them? Are the men serious about being with them? What does this particular thing mean? What does that particular thing mean? What should they do about their situations? The answers are usually right there, if they closely observe and accept the facts in front of them. I know this is...
If we want to encourage someone, we normally express appreciation, admiration and support for them. We express gratitude verbally and also by giving back in some way. We often verbally praise that person. When it comes to bad behaviors, we may not necessarily verbalize agreement with how someone is acting. Yet, if we don’t verbalize disagreement, and if we go along with them or stand by them, this is indication of agreement and acceptance. Both...