One of the best traits anyone can have?…drumroll… This is emotional intelligence because it is needed across the board. A lot of problems stem from lack of emotional intelligence. Problems stem from lack of integrity in general. But some people do not have emotional intelligence to help them cope with and manage issues in life. According to Merriam Webster dictionary, this is emotional intelligence: ” the ability to recognize, understand, and deal skillfully with one’s...
Is it possible that men and women can get out of the natural order in relationships? People are free to do as they please, obviously. But the purpose of this post, like the purpose of my other posts, is to present life situations based on God’s word and His design. Yes, the woman’s job is to reciprocate, to respond to a man’s initiative when it comes to relationships. It is a God-given dynamic. Even in...
These are reasons why one should maintain proper standards and reasonable expectations. There is a heavy price to pay to settle for less in love, relationships and life. • Destruction of mental, physical, spiritual and all-around well-being. • The chance of being his beard: he is on the downlow; is sexually involved with men secretly. But his lady is his cover so that he can appear to be conventional. • Possibly having children with him...
It is well known across the world, throughout various cultures that men are obligated to provide for their families. Women often talk about desiring husbands who are providers. This is a good desire because it is Biblical. What does providing mean? So often, people refer to provision in the sense of material and financial provision primarily. Those are important aspects of provision, but they are not the only or most important ones. I think that...
In my previous post, I talked about how some people idolize sex. It is much easier to connect physically in sexual acts with someone than it is to actually love someone. To truly love someone takes sacrificial actions. The two great commandments from God, found in the Bible are based on loving God and loving others; not on having sex. Yet, in our society and other places around the world, sex has become an idol...
This is an important message. Some women use our nurturing instincts to try to fix and heal men who have not allowed Jesus to heal them. These types of men can be very dangerous. Ladies, if a man does not love himself, he simply cannot and will not love you. This is important to understand. Show me a man that mistreats women and is hateful toward women. You have shown me a man who hates...
This post is to inform girls and women in ways that I was not informed. It is to encourage them in ways that I was not encouraged. It is to warn them in ways I was not warned. Everyone has insecurities of some sort. For some people, their insecurities are a lot more debilitating. Some women are finding out about the dangers of relationships with their men primarily through their individual experiences. Some people are...
Some of us ladies have had tendencies to become overly zealous when we became involved with a man. For some women, this may have taken the form of idolizing men and placing them as priority over almost everything and everyone soon after they met them. For me, it was having that person on my mind almost constantly and having very strong feelings for him early on. I was positively presumptuous. It’s good to be positive...
On this blog, I talk a lot about what is wrong and I talk a lot about what is right, based on God’s word. One reason for this is to by comparison, acknowledge the brokenness of humanity. When I highlight problems, it is not to bash people or to try to shame them. It is me acknowledging problems and acknowledging the solution, which is Jesus Christ. What is wrong in the world? What in the...
If we want to encourage someone, we normally express appreciation, admiration and support for them. We express gratitude verbally and also by giving back in some way. We often verbally praise that person. When it comes to bad behaviors, we may not necessarily verbalize agreement with how someone is acting. Yet, if we don’t verbalize disagreement, and if we go along with them or stand by them, this is indication of agreement and acceptance. Both...