Impacting Righteously

One Of The Best Traits A Man Can Have.

One of the best traits anyone can have?…drumroll… This is emotional intelligence because it is needed across the board. A lot of problems stem from lack of emotional intelligence. Problems stem from lack of integrity in general. But some people do not have emotional intelligence to help them cope with and manage issues in life. According to Merriam Webster dictionary, this is emotional intelligence: ” the ability to recognize, understand, and deal skillfully with one’s...

Who He Is Matters FAR More Than What He Has.

Globally, lots of women seem to believe that it’s more important what men have than who they are. This way of thinking has driven many women to make very poor and dangerous relationship decisions. Some women focus on men’s titles, positions and statuses mostly. This focus is understandable to an extent. Everyone knows that men are to provide. Part of provision means material provision. It means earning money in order to earn one’s keep to...

Ladies, Your Worth Is NOT In Your Fertility.

Hi friends! I decided to write this post because I see it being weaponized against women that that there is a window of time for women to have children. There are insinuations that women decline in worth and value once past their “fertile” years before age 30. Especially, some “conservative” religious men are harsh and cruel, calling women who are childless and single “bitter cat ladies.” I wrote this post to encourage every single woman...

IF You Are Afraid Of Him, Stay Away From Him!

It’s a dangerous world. There are dangerous people. If you are afraid of someone, should you stay away from them? The answer sounds obvious. Yes! Yet, sometimes it’s not so simple. I have been in situations in my past where men made me nervous, gave me dangerous vibes right from the get-go and I proceeded with them anyway. I never let it get very far because I am a very cautious person and as it...

Important Dating And Other Safety Tips For Ladies.

Some of these safety and dating tips are common sense. Sometimes, some women can be so excited to have interaction with men, they forget to be careful. We live in a dangerous world. There are decent people out there, but there are dangerous people as well. I find that no matter what, there are women who live carefree/carelessly in their interactions with men. Sometimes, these are men they don’t even know well. In addition, a...

You Are Not His Savior.

This post is a reminder to encourage dating women that you don’t have to work so hard in your relationships. Men are not children that are to be raised by their women. We understand this in theory, but sometimes, it’s difficult for some women to apply this reality in their relationships. Some women are exhausted and frustrated from working so hard on their men as their personal projects. “I’m a ride or die chic!” some...

Black Girls And Black Women MUST Stop This

In keeping with my theme of godly femininity and impacting others righteously, in this post, I am calling out something about certain (not all) black women. This is because what is right is right, and what is wrong is wrong, regardless of anything else. It doesn’t matter if we are the same gender or if we have similar skin tones. I don’t take sides, based on superficial traits. I want to do what is right...

8 Ways For Women To Trade In Misery For Peace.

Many women are quite unhappy. I hope for and pray for peace and joy in the lives of others. Like anyone else, I have moods that fluctuate. For every problem there is a solution. Peace and joy come to me when I focus on God as my source. It is an ongoing reality that I need to focus on God in all of my circumstances, in order to have peace. There are many reasons for...

What Daughters Need From Their Fathers

I have experienced and observed the fact that many girls grow up with critically low self-esteem due to various circumstances. Some of the circumstances take place within their homes. For example, some girls have been treated as less than by family members for being female, they have generally been restricted a lot more from various activities and held to higher standards than their brothers. In particular, this happens in some religious households. As time goes...

A Woman’s Right To Choose

I sympathize with women because of the many difficulties plenty have in their relationships. I cannot identify with witnessing physical abuse between my parents. I cannot identify with girls who have grown up watching their mothers bringing different men in and out of the house or those who have a father that cheated on their mother. Seeing dysfunction in the home as a girl can normalize it for some. Some girls witness all kinds of...

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