Women have had real problems since the fall of mankind in the garden of Eden, when both Adam and Eve were removed from the garden. As women, we do play pivotal roles in our own plights. Thankfully, women do not have to suffer so much. In many cases, it is optional.

Symbolically speaking, as it pertains to how women have related to men throughout time, some women have run zealously into the mouths of angry, hungry lions. Some women have gone and put their own heads on the chopping block.

Due to a lack of understanding, idolatry, wrong conditioning, lack of self-love, or other reasons, plenty women have been tricked into seeking to find their purpose primarily or maybe even solely through men. Some women, whether they realize it or not, have fixated on men as gods.

Here are some ways women run into extra difficulties in their relationships:

1) Some women have traded the truth for a lie and live sub-par lives to have and keep a man.

Not everyone believes in God or the Bible. However, even among those who profess to be Christians, sadly, some women are ignorant of God’s word, even though it is available to all. Sometimes, a woman who has the truth will be swayed, even off Bible truth under the influence of a man. Why? I believe this is partly because she idolizes him.

The word of God says that a woman is to be loved and cherished by her husband. (Colossians 3: 19, Ephesians 5: 25- 33). For different reasons, many women marry and date men who do not love them, men who abuse them, cheat on them, and sometimes kill them.

God did not create women to be treated this way. Women at times unknowingly become involved in very bad situations. Some women remain for different reasons, some of which are complicated. Even early on in a relationship, or sometimes later, some women ignore red flags.

2) Even some professed Christian women have obeyed men rather than God.

Some of these particular women seem to be devoted to God until a man comes along; then they waver and settle for less to be with him.

Some women even stop going to church, compromise their Christianity, and their morals for their man. There are various ways this will backfire.

It is important to believe real facts. Some women trade facts for illusion or delusion.

3) There are women who have not believed their man when he clearly and even repeatedly showed them who he was.

There are women who try to force unhealthy situations to work out. Some have chosen to believe what a man says over what he does.

These women are persuaded by false, verbal reassurances, even though their men’s actions do not coincide with their lip service.

Idolatry of men is a common problem with plenty women.

4) Some women have not only forsaken God, but have forsaken their children, as well as other loved ones at times, just to keep a man around.

Some children have reported sexual and other types of abuse to their mothers, only for mothers to choose not to believe them, and to turn a blind eye to the situation.

Some women have (often unknowingly) brought dangerous men into their homes, exposing their children and other loved ones.

Sometimes, this can have an emotionally traumatic impact on the children. Worst case scenario, it can have an emotional, physical and/or fatal impact on both the mother and/or her children.

I do sympathize, because I know anybody can have a lapse of judgment. However, often, women wind up in these situations because they choose to ignore red flags.

Some women are also known to repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Everyone makes mistakes, but mistakes should serve as instruments for learning.

In the previously mentioned types of situations, anyone connected to the woman is potentially in danger, including family members and friends.

I admire and applaud the strength of so many single women out there who simply ended up with the wrong men, and were left as single mothers. These women are doing their best to love and care for their children.

Contrarily, there are single mothers who do not care well for their children. Men are more important to them than their own children. This is common.

Making the same mistakes over and over.

5) Even in an unhealthy relationship, some women are known to stay with, and have multiple babies with the same lousy father, even though they know how he is!

Women were not meant to be single mothers. Some women lack the strength, dignity or knowledge to protect themselves from single motherhood. Single motherhood can happen to anyone, because these things happen. The key is to learn valueable lessons, and not keep making the same mistakes.

It is not uncommon for single mothers to move from relationship to relationship, holding out hope that each new man will actually work out. Along the way, sometimes, a woman has even more babies with various men. These choices make life harder than necessary for all involved. It does not have to be this way, and should not be this way.

Why should a woman let a man dump on her, use her, possibly giving her stds/pathogens, and then move on?

She is the one who often is stuck solo raising the children, and most likely, the main one besides the children suffering the heartache. Often, women invest sooner and more deeply emotionally into their relationships than men do.

As I have discussed previously in other posts, some men have been conditioned from a young age for performance and promiscuity; not for real love and healthy relationships.

It is not uncommon that a woman’s man doesn’t really care in the first place, and just moves callously on from a woman after a breakup. Some women idolize men and relationships, and allow lots of unfortunate things to happen to them.

For various reasons, some women invite evil and danger into their lives, and remain in those situations. God’s plans for women are infinitely better than these bad situations. Thankfully, there are many women who make a mistake, pick themselves up, lesson is learned, and they carry on.

Others live life making the same mistakes, idolizing men, ideas and things. These scenarios remind me of the women described for the last days in 2nd Timothy 3: 6-7. These are described as women who are lead captive by evil men.

“Silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, ever learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.”

Sometimes, a woman’s victimization is self- imposed victimization.

Women’s poor choices have been made for different reasons. These include failure of parents to properly instruct them beforehand, general ignorance, idolatry of men, lack of self-love, and desperation.

It is surprising to me that the plight of women doesn’t seem to be a big deal to some people, including many women! When I observe the things some women are going through and have been going through dating all the way back to Biblical times of long ago, it is disturbing. This is why I talk about it.

Women generally have had fewer opportunities to take care of and protect themselves in the past. Even in the present, when women have better options, many are sadly still free-will victims. I know that there are mothers who teach their daughters. 

I hope mothers are extensively training, teaching, warning and equipping their daughters to know God and His ways and plans. Even if they do not believe in God, I hope and pray that mothers put lots of effort into training their daughters so that they have the knowledge necessary to date and marry wisely.

Lack of self-esteem and not knowing their value is a root problem among some women.

Ideally, mothers will teach daughters about their worth, and to the best of their ability, about how to deal with men and relationships. Fathers could share even more about men with their daughters, being men themselves.

I would love to see women taking better care of themselves. I do see that some women are waking up and realizing that they can and should do better. Otherwise, there is a terrible price to pay.

I say with sympathy that so much horror women go through has at times either been self-inflicted, allowed, or continuously tolerated, and that is a shame. May God help each woman to value herself in a healthy way, and seek God’s will, wisdom, and strength for everything.

“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not;  and it shall be given him.”  James 1: 5.