This post is to inform girls and women in ways that I was not informed. It is to encourage them in ways that I was not encouraged. It is to warn them in ways I was not warned. Everyone has insecurities of some sort. For some people, their insecurities are a lot more debilitating. Some women are finding out about the dangers of relationships with their men primarily through their individual experiences. Some people are...
Some of us ladies have had tendencies to become overly zealous when we became involved with a man. For some women, this may have taken the form of idolizing men and placing them as priority over almost everything and everyone soon after they met them. For me, it was having that person on my mind almost constantly and having very strong feelings for him early on. I was positively presumptuous. It’s good to be positive...
On this blog, I talk a lot about what is wrong and I talk a lot about what is right, based on God’s word. One reason for this is to by comparison, acknowledge the brokenness of humanity. When I highlight problems, it is not to bash people or to try to shame them. It is me acknowledging problems and acknowledging the solution, which is Jesus Christ. What is wrong in the world? What in the...
If we want to encourage someone, we normally express appreciation, admiration and support for them. We express gratitude verbally and also by giving back in some way. We often verbally praise that person. When it comes to bad behaviors, we may not necessarily verbalize agreement with how someone is acting. Yet, if we don’t verbalize disagreement, and if we go along with them or stand by them, this is indication of agreement and acceptance. Both...
No, the true source of fulfillment is not having a boyfriend or husband. Many women feel very lonely. People tend to feel empty when they have a void. People sometimes live life without a sense of true purpose. This can lead to restlessness and depression. Many people are searching, but some do not seem to know exactly what they are searching for or what they really need. Everyone, whether they know it or not, needs...
…as they say, and according to my interpretation of 1 Corinthians 13: 4 -7. Actions speak volumes. I want to talk about love, because the word love is often slandered. Some women have admitted that as girls, they witnessed their mothers being abused and they thought the abuse was love. It is all they knew at the time. I hear statements like “love hurts” or “love is dangerous.” If love does hurt, this could be...
I sympathize with women because of the many difficulties plenty have in their relationships. I cannot identify with witnessing physical abuse between my parents. I cannot identify with girls who have grown up watching their mothers bringing different men in and out of the house or those who have a father that cheated on their mother. Seeing dysfunction in the home as a girl can normalize it for some. Some girls witness all kinds of...
What one tolerates or doesn’t tolerate in a relationship is certainly up to that particular individual. Everyone has negotiables and non-negotiables. There are some issues I frequently see that are contributing to many women’s unhappiness. I believe that due to double standards, sexism and other reasons, many women have had a tendency to be overly tolerant to mistreatment in relationships.Some of you know how much I emphasize the importance of a woman holding her man...
There are still people out there who show love, kindness and generosity to others. Their light seems more and more bright as the rest of the world becomes darker. We live in a world where plenty others operate out of hatred. This post will address what I am seeing around me- increasing hate against women inside and outside of the churches. For this reason, dating and relationships are more difficult than ever. Especially, for women....
This is what some people say. Is it true? This post is inspired by a recent discussion I was involved in on this topic. Based on what factors does one come to the conclusion that women are worse for cheating than men are? A long time justification for this belief has been that when women have sex, they become attached; they catch feelings. Men, they say, are often only doing it for the sex; no...