Yes. A woman’s approval and affirmation of her man is incentive for him. Did you ever notice that plenty men who desire women generally avoid behaviors that they believe repulse women and push women away from them?

Men who want to be with women generally act in manners they believe will attract and keep women. Or at least, some behave in ways, doing just enough right not to repel women. In other words, plenty will do the minimum of what is necessary to attract and keep women.

Some men are able to do the following and still get and keep women:

Lie

Abuse– all forms

Steal

Cheat

Be parasitic– being hobo sexuals, living off of women who are needy and desperate for companionship or relationships.

These are just a few bad behaviors that some men are able to get away with. It incentivizes certain men to keep misbehaving, when no matter what they do, they get their physical, sexual and emotional needs met by women.

Women are not responsible for men’s behaviors. Men are not responsible for women’s behaviors. It is up to each individual to do what is right. Each individual is also responsible for not enabling and rewarding bad behaviors in others.

One should not reward and reinforce bad behaviors. When women co-sign their men’s bad behaviors, this is encouragement for their men to continue in their waywardness. Same goes for men and their women.

When women put up with mistreatment in relationships, this sends a message to the men that they do not need to do any better. Those men who lack integrity will take the easy way out.

Women who lack integrity will do the same. One of the main reasons I’m finding that women put up with too much is because they are worried that they won’t find “better” men. No one is perfect! But this doesn’t mean compromise ones morals and safety to be married or in a relationship.

Instead of some women understanding that their relationships do not validate them, and their worth comes solely from their Creator God, some women believe that their value is defined by their relationships with men. This primarily has to do with social conditioning, including the fact that many women are single-shamed.

Some women believe it is better to have a man who mistreats them, than to not have a man at all. This is false.

• This post is encouragement- a reminder to women that our influence is powerful.

• It is important to influence others, including the men in our lives correctly.

• Women can help change the trajectory by choosing to do right ourselves, and also by requiring the same of the men we allow into our lives.

• We don’t want to be reinforcers and rewarders of bad behaviors; then complain that there are not enough decent men around. Do we?

Men are responsible for their own behaviors, as we all are responsible for our own behaviors. Yet, it is human nature to want to take the easy way out. Toxic, cultural influences and upbringings often influence people’s wrong thought processes and bad behaviors.

As a woman, I don’t want to co-sign unrighteousness, especially in the man I am with. I am not responsible for someone else’s sins, but I’m responsible for not encouraging their sins also.

The human nature is sinful. When someone is applauded for, or encouraged in their sins, this approval of their sins does not give them incentive to do any better.

I am responsible for my own behaviors. I will answer to God. At the same time, I am responsible for not aiding and abetting bad behaviors in others.

“For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body.” 2 Corinthians 5: 10 (NLT)