When a man wants and loves the woman he deems right for himself, he will clearly show her this. If he doesn’t ladies, you really don’t have to try so hard to get a man to see your worth.

A man who is not working to get to know you and prove he is worth your while is not for you. There are many women who like men who don’t like them back, because these women have stepped out of their reciprocating lanes and have fallen for men who haven’t fallen for them.

Some women take initiative to pursue men who have not pursued them.

“If he wanted to, he would!”

This is a statement I have heard and seen multiple times. This is in reference to when a man wants a woman, he will show this to her and prove it to her. He will take action. That is, if he wants her enough and circumstances permit him to proceed.

There are men who have reassured me that men will practically move mountains for the women they want!

I have also had men who truly made effort in words and actions to let me know how they felt about me and made it clear that they wanted me.

• If a man wants to travel across the country to see a woman, he will if he sees her as worth it, truly wants her and is able.

• If a man wants to pursue a woman for a relationship, he will. She does not have to throw herself at him and chase him.

• When a man loves a woman and sees her value she will not have to beg him to love her or turn herself inside out and overextend herself to get him to see her value.

• When a man truly wants and loves a woman, she will not have to beg him to love her and scream, “Pick me, pick me!” at him.

• If a man wants to propose to a woman because he wants to marry her, he will. She does not have to propose to him or give him ultimatums when he wants to marry her.

There are no valid excuses that can be made up by women that will truly justify inaction on the part of men that they fantasize about and assume want them, although the men aren’t showing them they want them.

Men who do not take action don’t take action because they don’t want to take action. Or, they don’t want the women badly enough. It’s as simple as that.

There are a variety of reasons a man may not take action with women, such as the obvious- that he just isn’t into those particular women. It also could be he isn’t even single or available!

Sometimes, a man does not take action because he knows a woman is not easy prey. Some men have mental and or physical problems that keep them from pursuing and having healthy relationships with women.

Other men may not see themselves as currently ready for or worthy of certain women. There are a variety of reasons a man may not pursue a woman.

That’s okay! Rest assured ladies, that when it comes to the men who want you and are meant for you, they will come for you!

Some women were having premarital sex, doing all the chores, moved in with their boyfriends, were cooking meals and had been giving their boyfriends husband benefits for five or ten plus years. Their men still did not marry them.

After they break up, sometimes the men move on and marry other women within a year. In addition, the new women did not have to throw themselves at them and give husband benefits for years in order for them to propose.

Why? Because those men wanted to marry those new women and did not want to marry the previous women. It is as simple as that.

The new women did not have to move in, cook them meals and have premarital sex with them for years, hoping they would marry them. The men CHOSE to propose to and marry them because they wanted to marry them, even without those women trying so hard.

By the way, I’m all for an established couple serving each other. I think it’s wonderful that women who are loved by their men and know that the men are serious about them reciprocate and give back to their men. One great way to serve their men is to cook for them!

But it has to be a two-way street. A man must initiate and lead in love and a woman reciprocates. This is just a reminder to women that God has wired men to initiate; to take actions for and pursue the women that they love.

When men are not doing this, don’t worry. They are not for you, ladies. You don’t have to bend over backwards, commit sins and turn yourself inside out trying to prove yourself to the men that are for you! The ones for you will see your value, pursue you and eventually propose if they want to marry you.

Encouraging Bible Verses:

A man is supposed to actively seek out a wife. Women don’t need to throw themselves at men:

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.”

Proverbs 18: 22 NKJV.

As women, we may know what we want, but God knows what we need. It is important to seek God’s direction.

“A man’s heart plans his way,
But the Lord directs his steps.”          Proverbs 16: 9 NKJV.