Ladies, many of us are gifted with-well, the gift of gab! Generally, many women use lots of words. There are situations where it is better to be slow to speak, be reserved in how much we say, and be an attentive listener.

Plenty people are very flexible and accommodating. They learn how to adapt in different situations to obtain what they want in life.

Plenty people are good actors. They can play pretty much any role at any given time.

The more they do it, the better they become at it! It is expected that every woman will have both preferences and standards to some extent. Some women may be proactive in letting a man know up front that she is not looking for games.

This is understandable. However, it is very important NOT to go ahead and tell a man what you don’t want him to be, or all that you want him to be, and are looking for in a good man. He can easily slip into a role to play the part that you desire! It is best not to arm him with knowledge of your requirements and expectations.

Early in a relationship, simply observe a man, without talking too much, for the most part. Let him show his true colors.

This way, he doesn’t know what role to play for you. Let him be his true, authentic self as much as possible. It is likely that he may already be pretending, not being himself. However, a woman should not help him to pretend by giving him too much info that he can use against her, or use to play his cards right for her.

There have been times I said too much because I was already feeling defensive and felt I should let someone know early on that I was not about games. This can cause a man to become defensive. By me talking too much in that way too early, it probably came off as negativity, and may have been a turn off.

It also served as a warning for him to act and talk a certain way, but I actually want a man to be himself. Upon observation of him being himself without me coaching him , I will determine whether or not I am interested. Both the timing on information given, as well as choice of words I use is very important. It is important to be honest, but necessarily reserved.

Wisdom is a great, beneficial gift. I pray for it, and I am continuously learning how to apply it in different situations. I pray the same for others, that God blesses each and every one with the gift of wisdom! One wise thing to do is to hold our tongue when necessary, and also to always be observant, alert, and listen carefully.

I believe that any real man of God with the right motives is not interested in a careless or gullible woman, but he will appreciate a wise and confident woman.

“House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord.” Proverbs 19: 14