Free will is a beautiful thing! Thank God for it. It can be used either for good or for bad. Life is about choices to be made. Everyone has choices and makes choices. There are consequences for every choice we make. I would love to see women taking more of the right kind of control over their lives.

I want to see women taking better care of themselves. Much of women’s pain and suffering in their relationships with men is optional. I don’t want to see women continue to be victims, falling for the tricks of the enemy.

When I point out facts, it is my aim to shed light on the fact that a lot of what women go through is not necessary, but is allowed and tolerated by them. I say that with sympathy. I understand there are reasons for that-some of which I will discuss. I’m not blaming women.

Despite women often having very difficult relationships, there are men out there who would make very good partners.

• Women must be wisely selective in who they agree to have a relationship with or get married to.

• Boys are not properly raised in many households.

• Some fathers in particular, do not spend the time to instruct and model to their boys what it means to be a real man of integrity.

“Boys will be boys!” some parents declare.

• Many people hear this statement, and we see it applied in how boys are dealt with in their homes, and in society.

• “Boys will be boys” plants in the minds of girls early on that they should be tolerant of bad behavior.

• This mindset carries over into adulthood, and is applied in dating and marriage.

• Boys will be boys is accurate in it’s correct context.

• This means that any kind of sinful and harmful behaviors should not be put under the umbrella of “boys will be boys” because this indicates bad behavior is OK, as long as you’re a boy. This is wrong.

• Let boys be boys. As long as they are not harming anyone else and sinning, it is fine. It makes sense that boys play rough, have some different interests than girls, and don’t mind getting dirty. That is fine. As long as they clean up afterwards!

Many parents seem to relish in the fact that their sons cannot get pregnant. At the forefront of their concerns should be the fact that their sons can get someone else’s daughter pregnant! However, training and instruction is often lacking for boys. Some of the boys end up being lost, misguided, and age into lost adults.

They may attract women who are looking for a man who looks good on the surface. These women are eager to settle down and fulfill their dream of having a man, marriage, and kids. When a woman ends up with this kind of man, she is helping to start another generation of familial dysfunction.

Life should be lived with purpose. Women were created for God.

Women were created to be a helpmeet to a man in marriage (if she chooses to marry), encouraging, affirming and supporting her husband in doing the will of God. Her children are to be raised in the ways of the Lord. It is all about God.

Some women choose to be with, and thus assist ungodly men in their rebellion against God’s will. Some of these men want to live their own way, do their own thing, control, use, abuse, or be perverts. Unfortunately, some women have been their dedicated supporters and sustainers.

It is good for women to stop ignoring red flags, ignoring their intuition, and ignoring their discernment. A woman should not stoop and reduce herself to be the punching bag of lost, angry, and hateful men. She should not be the recipient of perverse men with deviance issues.

Women can help change the trend of societal dysfunction by not enabling or affirming ungodly men who rebel against God.

Christian women should no longer choose to date, marry, and have families with men who refuse to obey God. Women’s minds should be made up that they will serve God and will follow Jesus, no matter what-with or without a man.

Women who buy into the lies, don’t value God’s will enough, and do not know their worth can out of fear drop the bar, reduce themselves, and settle for less than God’s best.

In addition, these women will likely wind up in the same category as the other women who are living below God’s will-miserable. This is because they have chosen to partner with men who are not fit to have them; men who will withdraw from them their joy and peace; men who draw them away from the Lord, instead of pointing them to Him.

Women of God should stay strong in the Lord, stay strong in prayer, and in the resolve that no matter what, she will serve the Lord and will NOT settle for a man who does not serve the Lord with every fabric of his being. Ladies, the awesome duty of Christian women is to serve God all of our days, no matter what- single or married. Therefore, don’t be afraid to have great expectations for your partner.