I stopped fantasizing about love, relationships and marriage in my twenties and developed a more realistic approach. The reason for this is because God helped me better see HIS purpose in me and in marriage.

Marriage has nothing to do with the fairy tales and romance novels that often drive girls and women into relentless pursuits of romantic love with (often the wrong) men.

I realize God wanted my attention, my reverence, my worship in all that I do. I realize that my devotion to God trumps everything else. God’s purpose for me is to worship Him in Spirit and in truth.

I began to understand that I was to pray and seek God’s direction, seek His will for what He wanted for my life. It wasn’t right for me to just do my own thing based on what I thought I wanted or needed. I understood that my life was not about me.

My life is not about fantasies, idolization of men, relationships or marriage. Especially as a Christian, my life is surrendered to God. It’s not about me.

Another thing that helped me to stop fantasizing and having unrealistic perspectives on love is seeing what is happening to some women and men around me.

Without living out our relationships according to God’s commandments, relationships are disastrous. Marriages are disastrous if spouses do not comply with God’s design.

Even some of my own experiences dating were wake-up calls to me. Is marriage a good thing? Yes. Marriage is ordained by God, so yes it is a very good thing.

But it is meant to be done according to God’s design and according to His will. Marriage takes effort and commitment as well as loyalty from both spouses.

A Christ-centered marriage is a God-glorifying marriage. A life yielded to Jesus is one worth living and leads to eternal life.

Whether people are married, dating or single, our purpose in life is to glorify God. Each individual has his or her own different purpose and must seek God for direction in fulfilling our callings. To be married or in a relationship is not the end all, be all.

To believe so has led a lot of men and women into dangerous, unhappy, unfulfilling situations, relationships and marriages. When we prioritize God, the rest falls into place, Friends.

Related Bible Verses:

“Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” 1 Corinthians 7: 1-2 KJV.

“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Ecclesiastes 12: 13 KJV.