Jesus is not my boyfriend either. I have been noticing this for a while: some women in particular, seem to have this sappy, romantic view of Jesus Christ. Although we know that Jesus loves us and as His followers, we love Jesus, it is not that kind of love. It is far greater.

We can never fully comprehend the love Jesus has for us, but we show our love for Him by obeying His commandments. Christian women should submit ourselves to the will of God. Sometimes, a woman seems to be on fire for God, a zealous follower of Jesus Christ…

…That is, until a man comes along, and she starts to date him. This man may or may not be a follower of Jesus Christ. Even if he is a follower of Jesus Christ, sometimes, a woman will alter her relationship with Jesus and her worship habits to fit the man’s.

For some women, even if they have been faithful churchgoers, and their man does not want to go to church, the women sometimes stop showing up. Some worship songs have even been written in an overly humanistic, romantic manner, in reference to Jesus Christ. I believe this is deceptive and inappropriate.

I remember attending a church where one woman in particular, was a very faithful attendee who seemed zealous for God. Then, she met a guy, brought him to church once, and I was happy for her that she had met someone. But shortly after that, she never showed up again! I’ve seen similar scenarios with other Christian women and their boyfriends.

In another situation, a woman seemed interested in having a good relationship with God. She also seemed to be pretty spiritually sound. We would have discussions sometimes about God and about different scriptures in the Bible. She became very distracted when she met a man. This man put on a religious front and she seemed impressed.

Later, she mentioned to me about him being the “lamb of God.” Apparently, he had told her HE was the lamb of God! She asked me about it, but seemed to almost believe it. Some men have such a powerful sway over some women.

Some women talk a lot about Jesus and rave about Him, but moreso, when they are single.

Jesus is not any woman’s boyfriend, and He is not to be used as a placeholder until she meets a real, human boyfriend.

The tendency for even some Christian women to idolize men, prioritizing them over Christ is concerning. I know of other instances where women seem to treat Jesus as their boyfriend as well.

I understand that I cannot use God for selfish, carnal purposes. I don’t want to. I can’t treat Jesus as if He is my boyfriend one day and then put him on the back burner the next when I meet a man.

Jesus is King. Jesus is Lord and Savior. He is the spiritual Bridegroom and the church is the Bride. He is not some type of boyfriend. I sympathize with women and the loneliness some feel. I think everyone feels lonely at times. Transcending present times, women have yearned for love.

Some women are looking to men for the kind of love only God can give them.

Yet, many of the men out there seem to have had less training and discipline when they were young boys, living in their parent’s homes. Plenty seem to have less interest in a real relationship with God! Sure, some go through the motions and play the religious card for a woman that they are interested in. Women need to be aware of this. Women need God’s protection from this.

I want to encourage ladies to keep God first and remind that there is no substitute for Him. No one can cure loneliness better than Him. Sure, it’s nice to have a significant other. It’s nice to meet someone to spend life with in a healthy marriage. But that has its place.

Our desires should never become idols. Discussing this topic is a good reminder for me as well, because any of us can fall into the trap of loneliness and idolatry of men and relationships, if we’re not careful.

Finally, is a reminder that God says we are to have no other gods before Him.

When we prioritize any person, place, or thing above God, we are treading on dangerous ground. It is not pleasing to our rightfully jealous God. We are also making ourselves vulnerable to attacks from the enemy.

Sometimes, Satan will send a Christian woman a decoy and she may believe the decoy is a gift from God! We must always remain prayerful, careful and keep God first in all things. My prayer is for my sisters in Christ and myself, that we remain safely in Him, whether single, dating or married.

The Lord says, “You should have no other gods before me.” Exodus 20: 3