As women, we can be tempted to believe we can fix men. But that’s God’s job. How can a man love you when he cannot receive love from heavenly Father God? How can anyone give love when they have not received love? 

You cannot give away what you don’t have. This goes for men and women.

There is something in some women that causes them to idolize men and pretty much use God as a substitute for a man’s love. What I mean is that some women treat God as if He is to be worshiped and adored, but primarily He is there to give them husbands or boyfriends.

Some women fixate on and focus on God until or unless they meet men. Then God becomes secondary. They compromise their values, morals and reorder their goals and interests based on men that they have in their lives.

First, holding someone as equally valuable and important as God is idolatry. Worshiping anyone or anything other than the Lord Jesus Christ is idolatry. Secondly, no person, place, thing or circumstance was ever meant to take the place of our relationship with God.

We are created by God to worship God. We were created for God. Everything else is very secondary. Jesus is not a placeholder boyfriend for women. Some women seem to be in love with Jesus until He goes on the back burner after they meet men they are interested in.

This is a troubling and strange scenario. To say the least, it is very disrespectful, irreverent to treat Jesus as a mere placeholder boyfriend, as if he is just some dude.

This is a reminder to keep God first, a reminder that God is the true source of love from which all pure love comes from.

People who don’t relate properly to God and know God’s love cannot relate properly to and love others.

No one other than God is meant to satisfy our deepest yearnings and no one can satisfy the God void that we all have. As Christians, if we become involved with someone romantically, it should only be after prayer and God’s guidance and protection in doing so.

God should be our priority to serve and worship. When we worship God, we should align ourselves with other people who submit to Christ and worship God in Spirit and truth also.

This means we should not be aligning ourselves with anyone who hates God, does not serve God and rejects God.

But in order to avoid these types of men, women must keep God first and not idolize men. It is the truth that a man who does not know God cannot love. God is love.

It is true that a man who cannot and does not receive the love of God has not received love to give to anyone else. Same goes for women.

It is fantasy and delusion to believe that we as women will be exceptions in men’s lives; that they will love us, despite the fact that they do not know God or know God’s love. People have often been hardened by life and life’s harsh circumstances.

We all need God in order to heal, grow and learn to truly love.

People who don’t know and submit to God do not obey the two great commandments, which are to love God with all of our hearts, souls minds and strength; and to also love our neighbors as ourselves.

When people are not willing to practice the two great commandments, this means that they are prone to all kinds of sinful, bad behaviors that harm themselves and others.

This means that they often won’t treat others correctly because they do not love God and won’t obey God.

When people don’t treat others correctly and fail to practice the golden rule, this means that they are prone to lie, cheat, steal, abuse and even commit murder. Need I say more?

Broken relationship with God means broken relationship with others. As Christian women (or men), we must remember this for ourselves and also remember this about the people we choose to bring into our lives.

Related Bible Verses:

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.”

1 John 4: 7-8 NKJV

“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

John 13: 34-35 NKJV

Jesus answered him, “The first of all the commandments is: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one.  And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ 

This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

Mark 12: 29-31 NKJV