This is a sincere question I ask out of genuine concern. What is with this generation of certain men who believe that they deserve princess treatment and that a woman is not the prize, but that the man is the prize?

The truth of the matter is both people can be the prize. But a man is wired by God, designed by God to be the initiator; the one who pursues the prize- the woman of integrity he desires.

He is to woo and win her over by properly impressing her. This means he has to prove to her that he is also a prize and she responds accordingly. I wonder why this dynamic doesn’t seem to be understood or accepted by many men today?

Could it be that a lot of the young men need their hormones checked? Is it pornography consumption interfering in some men’s ability to pursue women, woo and win them? There are gentlemen who admit that watching porn brings them shame and takes away their courage to face and pursue women.

There are also environmental toxins that can cause excessive estrogen in both men and women. I say this with all due respect: I suspect that some men are at lower testosterone levels and elevated estrogen levels.

There is a chemical called atrazine that’s in some water supplies and perhaps in other products. Atrazine is known to feminize male frogs [1]. I wonder if it is possible it has a similar effect in men.

Women should never be so lonely and desperate that they accept men who refuse to be men, but want to be treated like princesses. Some women are so lonely that they will accept a man who stands around waiting to be chased, wined, dined and won’t take the lead or show true intentions.

Please understand I am not ragging on anyone, including men who are very shy or may have been traumatized and have a difficult time with connecting to women. There can be some exceptions to the norm with certain men and how they naturally relate to women.

I’m speaking in general, how some men are willing to take a back seat and just let women do pretty much everything, including shooting their shots at them and winning them over. This is unnatural. Many women are traditional and don’t know what to do with men like this, so relationships aren’t happening in those cases.

Some women are deceived because throughout history, many have been affected by male chauvinism and demeaned by men. Their idea is that the solution is for men and women to be treated equally, so it doesn’t matter if a man wants to be treated like a princess.

This is harmful and backward thinking. Men and women are equally valuable and important, but obviously are not the same.

Certain men mistreated women, hated on women and did not give women the honor of being treated tenderly, kindly and cherished as ladies. Instead, they demeaned and mistreated women for being feminine, for being women.

Some women fell for the bait and demanded to be treated as “equals” with men, rather than setting high standards to receive kind treatment and reject anything less. Now, some men are literally treating women like men and those men are behaving like women in certain regards!

Some men treat women as if they are other men in their relationships. Some working husbands want to split bills 50/50, while the women go 100% through pregnancy, 100% through morning sickness, 100% through cramps, menstruation, childbirth, postpartum and handling most of the child rearing!

Some men are withholding love and care from women. They don’t have masculine, initiating, provider mentalities. They want to treat women like they are men! Some women are adding to the problem by claiming to be equal with men. Equal in value and importance does not mean we are the same.

Women need to not settle for men who pretend that they are princesses and that women should be treated like men. That is lazy and a cop out for some men, to get out of what God designed them to do- which is to be gentlemen, to pursue women, be chivalrous, be providers.

They are to work to win over the desired women, prove to the women that they as men are also prizes, and that the women will be safe and better off coming into relationship and marriage with them than they would be to remain single.

Otherwise, what’s the point of a woman leaving her single status if a man doesn’t have a better offer for her than her remaining single? Both people’s lives should be enriched when they come together.

Yet, some men nowadays don’t want to pursue, woo, win women over and with their women, maintain the relationship and marriage. Instead, it’s a power struggle where one or both partners wants to see what the other one will do for them, while they withhold giving of themselves.

Some men seem to believe that they should put effort in only when they are pursuing women and once women say yes, mission  accomplished-they don’t need to maintain! Both people need to maintain their relationship and marriage.

Women who pander to the men who are rejecting manhood and what it requires are causing a lot of harm by pandering to this emasculated mindset in many of today’s men. They are reinforcing and rewarding those men’s failures to step up as men should.

Again, I constantly encourage women to influence others righteously. This means women sticking to God’s design, not settling for less. God wired and designed the man to be the leader (NOT to be confused with controller) and initiate pursuit.

He is to pursue the woman he desires, to initiate in love and to impress the woman he yearns for. He is to show her she is safe and will be safe. The woman is to respond to the man, to reciprocate! She should love him back romantically if feelings are mutual, and respect him regardless.

It’s as simple as that. This design transcends time. God does not change. However, satan is the author of confusion. The male and female animals don’t seem to be confused. The male animals are continuing to show off their bright, beautiful colors, fight other males and do other things to impress females.

The females are continuing to be selective and respond selectively based on God-given instincts. Certainly, men should not be fighting other men for women, by the way. There is a different burden of proof needed from the men, to impress women they desire. The men are to lawfully pursue and impress the women they desire.

The male animals are not whining and complaining that female animals aren’t showing off bright colors and fighting other females for males. Female animals aren’t stepping into the male animals’ roles out of desperation. Friends, this post is a reminder that God’s way is the best way and transcends time.

Bible References:

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18: 22 NKJV.

Notice, it doesn’t say, “she who finds a husband…?” It is a man’s duty to seek out and find a wife. He takes initiative.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Genesis 2: 24 NKJV.

Notice it is the man taking action to leave his parents and join to his wife. She obviously has to agree, but he takes initiative and wins her over and they choose each other if desire and feelings are mutual. God’s plan and design is effevtive and beautiful!

Source on atrazine:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2842049/